Wednesday, January 2, 2008

ADVICE - january edition

in the midst of all the resolving and resolutin' going on in the blogworld,
i got to thinking about the two single most powerful pieces of advice i have ever heard.

i find these two quotes may help you this year,
they save me quite often:

after 911, joyce carol oates gave a speech.
in it she started by saying that years hence,
when children or grandchildren asked her what it was like to watch the towers falling,
she would only tell them that "it was like watching the moon fall from the sky".

and that after,
the only thing she would tell people,
the thing that would get them through no matter what,
was "action is the antidote to despair".

i LOVE that. i USE that. i say it OUT LOUD TO MYSELF when times are hard,
and it chills me and makes me push on through and get to it.

when i had just broken up with a model i had been dating (gorgeous, made sheep look smart), and was despairing of ever finding love,
my younger sister (who was SIXTEEN at the time)
had just broken up with her boyfriend of two years.

i asked her why, and she said

"well, i decided it really only came down to two things:
does he make me happy? and does he treat me well? and if i could say yes to those two things, nothing else really mattered."

made the whole list of things i wanted in a guy kind of . . . stupid.
so i thought i'd try it. you know, put it out there.

and damn her, if two days later i didn't meet tim.

just some grist to keep in the mill as you ponder this year.


Alice Olive said...

A thoughtful post. Makes me stop and think too. I especially like the second quote - clearly your sister was wise beyond her years at 16. I would actually apply that one to all relationships, personal and professional.

Oh, and by the way, all the best for 2008!

moi said...

Love the Oates quote. I pondered a similar theme for my blob post today. Must be something in the air . . .

Your sister sounds like a smart, smart gal, too!

i am playing outside said...

your sister is a smart girl, Landis. it must run in the family.

Whiskeymarie said...

"action is the antidote to despair".

I agree with this wholeheartedly, even though I don't always follow the mantra.

Your sister is one smart cookie, but then again so is her brother.

TravelGretta said...

Okay, now what kind of paper did you make this list on? Because I currently have one, on yellow, lined paper, and I'm wondering if that's the problem...

Michael said...

You made me cry a little bit this morning, and I'm not even sure why. But...errr...thanks? I guess.

Stacy said...

both are brilliant.

thanks for sharing.